I often hear from women who are trying to cope and move forward as best as they can after their husband’s affair. They often really do want to save their marriage. They don’t want to lose what they worked so hard to build. But, the affair has brought doubt into their minds that is so hard to beat. It’s quite understandable that they want to be absolutely sure that they never have to deal with this sort of pain again. And although their husband is telling them that he’s truly sorry and will never do anything like this again, they know deep in their hearts that he’s lied to them before about very huge issues.